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I saw this movie on sale at the grocery store while looking for “gripe water" with Gideon on Saturday. Why did I stopto look at movies? Well, the short version is that I couldn't find the gripe water, so I grabbed something else and was waiting for Gideon to narrow down his 3 “treats for being good" to just one… I also bought the gripe water for Boaz on Amazon with my iPhone and snapped this photo while I was at it.
I can't begin to tell you how many things I find absolutely wrong with the subtitle of this movie: True Love: “Love means never having to say your sorry." But I know that there are probably so many people that think that this statement is true, and unfortunately they'll never know true love, because I for one can tell you: true love says “I'm sorry!" And my married life can attest to that! I recently thought of the one thing I want to apply Malcom Gladwell's 10,000 hour rule from “Outliers" – and that's apologies. Because the more effective I am at saying I'm sorry, the more quickly the feelings of love will return making the acts of love more possible in our home.
Even God, Who IS LOVE, said He was sorry, and this is a great article explaining why: http://www.mountainretreatorg.net/faq/gen66.html
Jesus himself wept in the shortest verse in the Bible. (John 11:35) I believe Jesus is expressing His sorrow for all to see how much He loved Lazarus, (if you read the next verse you'll see why I believe that.) And this feeling of being sorry for something is as much a part of love as the feeling of hunger is to eating!
I'm sure there will still be some out there that beg to differ with me and try to point to some merit in the idea that true love is so quick to forgive that apologies are not really necessary. And to those I'll simply point in the direction of politicians and world leaders who are on the quest for utopia here on earth… For where they find the utopia, I'm sure they'll find love without apologies.
As for those of us who are imperfect humans, living in this fallen and imperfect world; we will experience true love in saying I'm sorry, even when saying it is hard.
Peace,
Adam
PS: full disclosure: I didn't buy the movie and I haven't seen it, even though it was nominated for 7 Academy awards…