The first half of Christ's discipleship triplet in Matthew 16:24 (and parallels): If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. The Greek aparneomai heauton means to disown the self — to renounce its claim to centrality, to refuse its preferences as the supreme criterion. Self-denial is not asceticism for its own sake; it is the rejection of the self's tyranny over the will.
DENY YOURSELF, n.
A scriptural teaching of Christ; the first condition of discipleship.
Matthew 16:24 — "If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me."
Galatians 2:20 — "I am crucified with Christ."
Romans 12:1 — "I beseech you... that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God."
Philippians 2:3 — "In lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves."
Modern Christianity preaches self-actualization; Christ preached self-denial.
The modern self-help economy is a multi-billion-dollar industry built on actualizing, optimizing, and centering the self. Christ preached the opposite: deny the self. Refuse the self's claim to be the criterion. Disown the self as the lord of the will.
The Christian life is not the destruction of the self (the self remains, redeemed and ruled) but the dethronement of the self. Christ takes the throne; the self serves. Modern Christianity sometimes baptizes self-actualization with biblical vocabulary; Christ refused. Deny yourself. The new self that follows is fuller and freer than the throne-seeking old self ever was.
Greek roots below.
G533 — aparneomai — to deny utterly
G1438 — heautou — himself
"Modern Christianity preaches self-actualization; Christ preached self-denial."
"The Christian life is not the destruction but the dethronement of the self."
"The new self is fuller and freer than the throne-seeking old self ever was."